a promise to be together

Do you know there are two kinds of people when it comes to time management.

“Okay see you tomorrow at 10AM.”  

Now there are bunch of folks who turn up at 9.45AM. Ofcourse other set who start at 10AM from their home. Reach leisurely at 10.15AM or even late.

Yes, undoubtedly you can label me in the second category. Trust me, My dad comes in the first, and he so badly wanted me to be in the first. But then, he hasn’t had much of a success in doing so. J J Sue, Bro do you remember those long lectures about being punctual. :D :D

Very fine example of a conversation between me and tanooj.

Me: time 2.55 avuthundhi ra… ippude bus digaanu..

Tanooj : adhenti time 2.55 avuthunna nuvvu inka bayate unnavu… vellipovaali kada ee paatiki..

Me : abbaa… bindaas raa… veldaam le mellaga.. burger king lo coffee teeskuni vellali.. 3.05, 3.10 velthe chaalu le em avvadu… :D :D :D

Tanooj : Chii… hflajhrlajwkhkjh… :P :P

Even before you say what the hell is this all about, let me get to the point.

I had to write the above 169 words because of this post. I swore to myself that I’d finish this well in advance of March 18^th(of this year, ofcourse :P). Planned to write it on 12^th, shifted to 13^th and I really wanted to make sure I finish it on 14^th, but then looks like you all had to know that it was delayed, long delayed and cant stop myself from hating ME. Anyways, I am all charged up to write it now.

If I’m not wrong, My friend Srikanth is already sure of what I am talking about. March 18^th 2012. A happy day in Durgumahanti family as they welcome a new person, and Swathi Sis welcomes her best half of her life. Srikanth also FB’ed his status quoting “sweetest” bro-in-law any one can have. Yes, I am a Moron, couldn’t even give a Congratulating-Call that day, atleast not until today. But then, I very badly wanted to be in Hyderabad for the special day of the year.

My hearty wishes from the very very very bottom of my heart to the Super Couple Swathi-Ravindranadh. Have an amazing, fun-filled life ahead.

Okay, now that wishes part is done, its time for some flashback and some of my gyaan. (Saavakottesthaa kaa… :D :D)

Well, I don’t really expect that you doesn’t know about the famous quote, but then.. Yes, Marriages are made in HEAVEN. I have witnessed inexpressible joy, straight from the heart on two occasions.

One dates back to 2005 November 17^th, and the other one 2010 December 26^th. The earlier date saw my Sis going to another family whilst the latter one, I welcomed my Vadina to my family.

Probably I have never expressed my happiness and I guess I cant really put them out now. Though 2005, did leave a scar behind as my sister had a new family and a new Country to live as well, leaving all of us behind.

With the fact that, all the occasions I mentioned above are Arranged by parents, the excitement begins right from the first conversation. Right from the first meeting. Exchanging numbers and Oh yea.. The Long.. really really long phone conversations. Sneak outs for lunch/dinner.

In 2005, my bro n myself, used to think hard as to what my sis n bro in law speak for so many hours. However, in 2010, I was the only one thinking as what my bro n vadina are speaking about for so long. :D :D

Feb 14^th 2005, a dinner at Amrutha Castle, a special day. Whereas, birthday celebrations of Vadina on December 11 2359 HRS and ofcourse dinner the next day at Utsav. J J The best enjoyed days for me, Sue n Bro before you got married to your best halves. J J

The excitement only doubles on the big day. The day of marriage. Probably it is because of the limelight you get. Trust me, I really have to refer thesaurus for the adjectives to describe that feeling. I had a glimpse of it on my Thread Ceremony. I was the hero of that day. I couldn’t stop myself from wondering how beautiful it is going to be when one is getting Married. Thousands of people pouring their wishes for you. Not just wishes but the gifts as well… :P :P On the other hand, the parents feel so elated. I can definitely say, those are the most precious moments of one’s life that they treasure forever. It’s a promise to be together in happ’y’ness and hard times as well.

This sounds so amazing isn’t it. Now the ridiculous part is there are many people who doesn’t cherish these moments. How insane of them. Really. How do you guys even exist?

There are, ofcourse many odds.

One doesn’t want to get married, or one who doesn’t want to go with their parents choice. One wants to get married twice, thrice. One wants to get married with a partner of their choice whilst their parents disapprove of it. Further more, one marries the partner of their choice and latter complains never to get married. The peaks is the advice of never to love somebody and get married, after they get married. One who sacrifice their love. One who sacrifice their life and oh you name the odds.

I don’t actually get it. What the hell? Speaking of the foreign culture(here I mean apart from India), it is always individuals choice. They first make love, then like, then start living together, then love, and then make babies, then if they still feel there is “love” between them, they take it to marriage. That’s pretty cool actually, makes sense. Sounds like no commitment, a care free life. But on the other hand, I personally feel what-the-crap. When you don’t even love each other, how can you make love and babies. Arghhh.. But still, that is how you guys take it. I respect it though. And on the other hand, I have met some people who really give importance to marriage, ofcourse they fool around before getting married but still.

Now coming to our culture, the Indian Culture. As far as I know, you are supposed to get married and then rest of the stuff follows it. But, that’s kind of, you know, becoming extinct. People wants to adopt western culture.

Every single movie, from over a decade and a half, portrays on Love Marriage, but nobody really speaks of Arranged one. Aint nothing wrong about it, but based on my knowledge, it is from the same people I get to hear, never love a girl, never get married or some go to extent of splitting up. Not that I say, all the ones arranged by parents are 100% successful, but still I believe they have more success percentage. All our elder generations, most of them are arranged, aren’t they? Aint they happy or together. Yes, they are. Then, what is it with us now?

Okay. First thing, you want a partner of your choice. Super cool. Go ahead and work out the things. Try to talk your parents through it. Make it happen. After a year or later, why do you start complaining? On the other hand, specially at girl’s place or some times at guys, parents start disapproving. I don’t get the reason. When you trust your kid on everything, why not on this? Why don’t the parents give it a shot? Caste is one thing which comes in between for obvious reason. There are zillion other reasons too. But why? When you really want your kids to be happy, what is stopping you guys?

Why do one have to give up on the people they love. At the sametime, you have lived in a house for atleast 20 years. Don’t you know what your parents want from you? How can you just break their heart and elope with the one you love? Or why does parents have to create that situation for their children?

You have known each other for so many years. Don’t you know what do you guys want from each other.

I know its not that simple. But there is a chance, it can be made simple.

Anyways, this is a fathomless argument. Let’s not really get to it. I just mentioned my thoughts of how things are getting dirtier which doesn’t really have to.

So, let me end this on a happy note as this post is totally dedicated to the new couple. Have a long-funfilled journey ahead. Congratulations once again.

And the other big thing. It’s a new year. Ugadhi. All my friends, my special wishes to each and everyone of you. Ugadhi Subhakankshalu. Hope this year brings luck to every one of us. God bless.

Life, yes, it is beautiful.

[PS Akka, bava this has got nothing to do with 2016, trust me. :P :P]

Yours

Dev.. J J